And 30 minutes later, I uninstalled the game. Not because I didn’t like the game, but specifically because I liked the game too much. The game is called Dave the Diver, where you are a SCUBA Diver/Sushi restaurant owner. You spend each day diving and catching fish, and then each evening serving sushi at the restaurant.
This game pressed every biological button my brain has for “efficiency.”
My brain told me I had to execute each dive as efficiently as possible. Each night at the restaurant meant I needed to receive a 100% customer satisfaction rating.
Of course, nothing would happen if I didn’t.
But this game + my brain equaled a recipe for addictive disaster. After 30 minutes I knew if I didn’t delete it, I would spend every possible minute playing the game, and every minute not playing would be spent thinking about how to get more efficient at the game.
Because I’m in the middle of writing a secret-book-shaped-project that I can’t talk about… I knew I needed to save Future Steve.
In other words, it was time to channel an ancient strategy for survival:
A “Ulysses Pact.”
What is a Ulysses Pact?
In Homer’s Odyssey, Ulysses (also known as “Odysseus”) is about to sail past a dangerous island of Sirens who sing beautiful music. This music is so beautiful that anybody who hears it loses all control, and will sail toward the island, crashing their boat on the rocks surrounding the island.
Luckily, our boy Uylsses has been advised by the witch Circe on the only way he and his men can survive. In Madelline Miller’sCirce, she recounts the advice Circe gives the captain:
“[For] the Sirens, there you may use your tricks. Fill your men’s ears with wax, and leave your own free. If you tie yourself to the mast, you may be the first man to ever hear their song and tell the tale.”
“Ulysses was strong enough to know that he would someday be weak. He expressed his strength by guarding against his weakness.
“When you take some possibility off the table during a moment of strength in recognition of some coming moment of weakness.”
In other words, sometimes giving up on yourself is the most courageous thing you can do. It asks you to accept your weaknesses, and make a strategic pre-planned decision to protect against them.
Ulysses Pacts In My Life
I am a comical disaster trapped in the body of an adult who pretends to be a functioning member of society. I am also my own boss, completely in control of my time. Yikes.
I struggle with impulse control. There are certain experiences that I am just incapable of doing “a little bit.” I also know that once I start an enjoyable activity, it will take over.
Which means it’s practically impossible for me to only do some things “just a little bit” and then say “okay that’s enough for today.”
After all, I know my brain isn’t equipped to handle the life of abundance we’re surrounded with: endless distraction, hedonistic enjoyment, unlimited food, etc.
E.O. Wilson said it best:
“The real problem of humanity is the following: We have Paleolithic emotions, medieval institutions and godlike technology.”
Rather than lament my lack of willpower when it comes to addictive technology, Ipractice acceptance and instead make willpower unnecessary.
Thus, my life is held together with spit, duct tape, and Ulysses Pacts:
I have an app on my phone called Opal. It automatically activates at 7AM and blocks certain apps, websites, and all social media for most of the hours of the work day. I still pick up my phone 10-20 times per day and try to open those apps, and then I’m reminded to get back to work.
I use a program on my computer called Focus. It automatically activates at 7AM and blocks practically ANYTHING fun or distracting on my computer until the end of the work day.
I don’t keep snacks in my house. I love snacks. And once a bag is open, it gets eaten. But when I’m sitting on the couch watching TV (I just finished Fallout and loved it), and I’m craving a snack, there’s no decision to be made. I’m certainly not going to drive to the store.
I don’t have any games on my phone. I know that I can’t control any impulses, especially for “gatcha” free games that encourage you to buy gems to level up.
I am locked out of each social media app after 15 minutes every day. Social Media has been designed by behavioral scientists, with billions of dollars, to be as addictive as possible. So I don’t try to “use it just a little bit.” I simply don’t let myself use it for any longer than “a little bit” because I’m literally locked out.
I don’t play multiplayer games. I have no regulation around “okay I’m done,” so I no longer play multiplayer games. I bet if I played World of Warcraft, you would never get another newsletter from me. Thus, I exclusively play single player games with a story or narrative.
I automatically donate to two charities every month: ProPublica investigative journalism and the Nashville Food Kitchen. Both of these decisions were made ONCE, which means I never have to remember to donate, nor am I tempted to spend the money once it hits my account.
Whenever I go to the doctor, dermatologist, or dentist, I always schedule my next appointment while I’m there. Because I know I’ll forget to do so months later, or I’ll tell myself I don’t need to go. Future Steve will not want to get his teeth cleaned or get bloodwork done.
My workouts are pre-scheduled in my calendar. I would much rather not work out, but I know if I don’t plan for them in my calendar, something else far more fun (but less beneficial) will take their place.
The only reason you get this newsletter every week, and the only reason I get to the gym a few times per week (in addition towinning the genetic and environmental lottery), is because of these Ulysses Pacts.
Here’s how you can use them in your own life.
You-lysses Pacts in Action
Returning to Corey Doctorow:
“Ulysses pacts aren’t perfect, but they are very important. At the very least, creating a Ulysses pact starts with acknowledging that you are fallible. That you can be tempted, and rationalize your way into taking bad action, even when you know better.
Becoming an adult is a process of learning that your strength comes from seeing your weaknesses and protecting yourself and the people who trust you from them.”
Let’s see how we can add some Ulysses Pacts to your life.
To create your own Ulysses Pact: look for opportunities to make a decision TODAY in a moment of strength, to safeguard yourself against an anticipated moment of weakness TOMORROW.
Even better, look for opportunities to make a decision once, and it prevents you from needing to use willpower to repeatedly do the right thing in the future.
A few more examples:
Decide to not keep problematic foods in the house once, and you don’t have to spend all night, every night, deciding NOT to eat those foods.
Decide to automatically donate to a cause you love once, and you don’t have to remember to not spend that money on something else and donate each month.
Delete and/or block social media and time-wasting games on your phone once, and suddenly the decision to read a book or go for a walk rather than mindlessly scroll through TikTok or Instagram becomes much easier.
Remember, acknowledging and creating safeguards against our weaknesses isn’t a sign of giving up or weakness.
It’s a courageous sign of acceptance.
It’s also smart.
What are the Ulysses Pacts you use in your own life? Did this article inspire you to create one for yourself?
Setting boundaries in relationships isn’t easy—and there are several misconceptions about what setting boundaries actually means. You might hesitate to form boundaries in your career, romantic relationships, or friendships because you assume this will make you come across as unreliable, selfish, or inconsiderate.
You’re afraid to push others away, turn down opportunities, and fall short of expectations, so you just continue showing up—often to your own detriment. A recent survey found that 65 percent of women have trouble saying, “No,” to a request or invitation they don’t want to be part of.
I know I’ve done this before and I’m sure you have too. It doesn’t feel good—and yet, it feels impossible to just do what you actually want to do. So you stay stuck in that cycle.
The truth is that setting healthy boundaries in relationships is an essential form of self-care and, as a result, is critical for your overall health and wellness. Let’s unpack what setting boundaries means (hint: it might not be what you think!) and the benefits of creating them for both your physical and mental health.
Understanding What Healthy Boundaries Mean for Your Health
First and foremost, I want to be clear on what I mean when I say “setting boundaries.” For me, setting a boundary is about determining what I want or need and then making a decision about how to achieve that for myself. Boundaries give us permission to:
Honor our own limits
Restore our inner peace and balance
Determine where we should invest our time and energy
In other words, boundaries aren’t always necessarily meant to keep people out or push people or experiences away. They’re more about tuning into what you need and honoring that deeply and completely.
Believing the latter is true might be why setting boundaries feels uncomfortable. You fear that you’ll sabotage your relationships or environments that matter to you.
The truth is, the more you learn to establish, communicate, and maintain boundaries, the more full and complete all areas of your life will start to feel. You’ll also feel less resentment toward other people and situations in your life.
Here are great things that boundaries can do for you:
Make it easier to clarify and align with your main priorities.
Help you distinguish your own needs, thoughts, and emotions from those of others.
Help you release responsibility for someone else’s expectations.
Reinforce confidence, resilience, and a clear sense of identity.
Ensure that your time and resources are being allocated intentionally.
Promote healthy conflict resolution to enrich your relationships.
Recharge your mental, emotional, and physical batteries.
Nurture self-respect by communicating what you will not tolerate.
Different Types of Boundaries for Your Many Relationships
Relationship boundaries strengthen your connections with both people and things in your life. These boundaries can take many forms and each one can create more space for your authentic self to flourish and intentional, mindful living to take root.
Notice how I’m not just referencing relationships with other people. There are many ways I’ve set boundaries in my relationships, yes with people like friends or partners, but also with technology and work—and so much more. You have a relationship with both things and people in your life—and being clear with how they play a role in your life is powerful.
Let’s break down some different types of boundaries and how you can set them in your own life.
Emotional Boundaries
Emotional boundaries allow for a healthy relationship. They ensure that you’re safe to communicate how you feel without taking on the emotions of others. These boundaries will help you set the emotional investment you’re able to put forth so you can pull back to regulate your emotions and return to a state of balance.
Setting an emotional boundary in a situation or with a person also empowers you to combat false narratives about yourself. In turn, you can begin to release the expectations, insecurities, and negative beliefs or reactions. Here are some examples of healthy emotional boundaries:
I won’t tolerate being spoken to disrespectfully.
I’m not comfortable discussing my past traumas with someone I just met.
I need some space to process my feelings before discussing that topic further.
I won’t take responsibility for someone else’s emotions.
I’m going to focus on my own needs and self-care right now.
I know this can be really hard, especially if you haven’t set boundaries in the past. But, by practicing little by little, it will get easier and be worth it in the end.”
Physical Boundaries
Physical boundaries establish a comfortable, protective barrier around your own space or body, from choosing to rest when you’re tired to telling a friend when you need space. These boundaries reinforce a compassionate, self-aware, and intuitive connection with your own body, which helps you develop deeper self-trust.
For example, a physical boundary could be to establish alone time or even a physical space within your home where you can retreat for solitude and relaxation, such as a reading nook or a home office.
Remember, you’re allowed to ask for personal space, even if you’re in a romantic relationship, live with roommates, or have children.
Work-Life Boundaries
Work-life boundaries create a firm separation between your personal and career obligations. An intentional work-life balance prevents the time you spend on the job from blurring into the time you allocate toward self-care and family activities.
A good example of this might be a time boundary: turning off your email notifications right at 5 PM. While a lack of boundaries in this area can lead to exhaustion and burnout, a healthy work-life balance will improve your mental health, reduce stress levels, and increase happiness.
I know this is something you’ve heard before—but do you actually set and respect those boundaries?
Technology Boundaries
Technology boundaries help you establish restrictions on smartphone usage, so you can unplug from virtual screens and connect with the real world. I know that if I’m not intentional about this, I’ll check my phone continually throughout the day without even thinking about it.
This is a chance to set some guidelines for when you want to be on your phone or how much time you want to spend on social media. Putting physical space between yourself and these aspects of your life can help you better align with the self-care you want to give yourself.
Interestingly, a two-week detox from social media was found to result in less anxiety, stress, sleep disturbances, and even sedentary habits. If those are goals for your life, a digital detox or better tech boundaries are a good thing to consider.
Putting Boundary-Setting into Practice
Now, we get to the part that might feel the hardest—drawing the line in the sand and setting those clear boundaries. Here’s an exercise you can use to take the emotion of this practice and instead, focus on what you need and how you can make it possible.
Take a piece of paper and draw two lines down it so you have three columns. Fill them out as follows:
Column 1: Identify how you want to take better care of yourself. Coming back to self-care and what is getting in the way of that. Start with 5-10 things that your mind and body is craving. Maybe it’s more nutritious food options during the week or extra quiet time before or after work.
Column 2: Determine what’s getting in the way of those things. Write this in column two next to each thing. Maybe you’re eating out for lunch each day, rather than making yourself a nutrient-dense lunch because you’re not giving yourself the time to get to the grocery store. Write that down.
Column 3: In the last column, write what small action you can take to set a healthy boundary and give yourself the thing you’ve been needing. Be realistic here—this isn’t about magically creating more hours in the day. It’s about doing what you can with what you have.
Finally, choose 2-3 of these things that you can start doing this week. Set those boundaries, get a little uncomfortable as you put them in place, and see what happens. With a little practice, setting boundaries will get easier—and you’ll feel good too!
Communicating Boundaries (With Yourself and Others)
Effective boundary-setting with others requires clarity, consistency, communication, and assertiveness. Clearly articulating your boundaries helps to avoid misunderstandings and conflicts.
I want you to remember that being assertive doesn’t mean being aggressive or confrontational. It’s about expressing your needs and limits firmly but respectfully, while also being open to negotiation and compromise when appropriate.
For example, if you repeatedly experience a boundary violation, it’s necessary to calmly but firmly reassert what you need, perhaps with additional clarification if necessary. It might even be necessary to put space between you and the person who’s violating your boundary to protect yourself and your mental health.
Just as important as communicating to others is holding healthy boundaries for yourself. This requires you to not only recognize your own limits, needs, and desires—but also keep yourself accountable to prioritizing those things.
In doing this, you empower yourself in other areas of your life too, which allows you to further set boundaries that are needed as your life changes and evolves.
Strengthen Your Boundaries and Nurture Self-Care with Lindywell
Healthy boundaries in your relationships with people, technology, and work make it possible to regulate emotions, maintain inner peace, successfully navigate relationships, restore energy levels, and, ultimately, prioritize your own self-care. Boundaries are about more than just saying, “No,” to what doesn’t serve you. Boundaries also free you up to offer a resounding, ”Yes!” to what feels most important in each season of life.
To prioritize your well-being in a way that is easy and convenient, I invite you to become a part of our community at Lindywell. Join now and get 14 days free! As a member, you’ll gain instant access to more than 350 Pilates classes, guided breathwork sessions, and nourishing recipes. Shift into grace over guilt while you make time for YOU.
These are the types of programs that we create for our 1-on-1 Online Coaching Clients, and we’re getting amazing results for people.
And make sure you download our Kettlebell Worksheet! It’ll come in handy in just a moment.
Grab Your Beginner Kettlebell Routine Worksheet!
Complete this workout at home or gym with 1 kettlebell.
Avoid the common mistakes everybody makes when doing kettlebell exercises.
Build strength, burn fat, level up your life!
Okie dokie, let’s jump right in.
The 20-Minute Beginner Kettlebell Workout (with Video Demonstration)
Once you’ve watched the video above (featuring Matt Shortis, a lead trainer in our 1-on-1 Coaching Program) here’s a quick recap with repetitions for the workout here:
COMPLETE THE FOLLOWING KETTLEBELL CIRCUIT 3 TIMES:
8 Halos (each side)
10 Goblet Squats
8 Overhead Presses (each side)
15 Kettlebell Swings -OR- Romanian Deadlifts
8 Bent Over Rows (each side)
6 Front Rack Reverse Lunge (per side)
And because we like to have fun around here, we made a graphic where superheroes do the workout.
Here’s the Beginner Kettlebell Workout as an infographic:
Our Beginner Kettlebell Workout is what’s called a circuit (you can learn all about circuit training here). That’s just a fancy term for doing a workout like so:
1 set of exercise A, go immediately to
1 set of exercise B, go immediately to
1 set of exercise C, and so on…
Repeat from the top!
Your long-term goal should be to do 3 full circuits, back to back, for a complete workout.
4 if you’re on fire, like in NBA Jam.
If you can only go through it once or twice, that’s okay too!
And if you need to take a break at any time between sets or after a circuit, do it! The most important thing is performing each rep with great technique – so if you need a breather to recover and give it your best effort, take it!
Prior to jumping into the kettlebell circuit, don’t forget to do some mobility warm-up (you can see our warm-up routine here):
Nothing too crazy, just something to “grease the groove” and get your body used to movement so you don’t pull any muscles once you start swinging the kettlebell.
In other words, prepare your muscles and joints to move some weight around!
A few minutes of running in place, air punches and kicks, some jumping jacks, and arm swings, should get your heart rate up.
After that, do a couple of reps of movements that mimic what you’ll do in the workout (i.e. do bodyweight squats to prep for goblet squats, etc.), and your muscles and joints will be warmed for the full Kettlebell Workout.
You can do all of the Beginner Kettlebell Workout with one single bell, from anywhere.
We’ll go over each move in our next section, so you can perfect your kettlebell technique.
Tip from Coach Matt: for the goblet squat, focus on depth. It’s more important to practice doing a full squat than to pump out reps. If you can’t make 10, don’t stress it. Do what you can.
#3) KETTLEBELL OVERHEAD PRESS
Grab the kettlebell with one hand, with the handle going down your palm (if the handle is too close to your fingers it’ll pull your wrist down).
Press straight up with your fist driving the movement (your fist would be pointing up the entire time).
Reverse the movement and bring the kettlebell back down. Then repeat.
Tip from Coach Matt: lower the bell under control by slowly hugging your elbow to your side. Tightening your lat this way will create a more stable position for the press.
#4) KETTLEBELL SWING -OR- ROMANIAN DEADLIFT
If you’ve never done a deadlift or a Romanian deadlift (RDL) before, we recommend starting with this variation, as it will set you up for success in the kettlebell swing later.
Here’s a detailed demonstration of how to do an RDL with dumbbells. With a kettlebell, all the same principles apply; you just hold the kettlebell with both hands.
Grab the weight and stand tall with knees slightly bent.
Keeping your back in a straight line, pivot from the hips and push your hips back towards the wall behind you. (Imagine you are slamming a car door shut with your butt while your arms are full of groceries.)
Stop the movement when your hips stop moving backward. (Lots of people will continue to drop their chest even when the hips are no longer moving.)
Press your feet through the floor and stand back up in one motion.
Repeat.
Once you’ve mastered the RDL, it’s time to move on to the Kettlebell Swing.
Get down into a bent-over, flat-back position and grab the kettlebell with both hands from the handle.
Swing the kettlebell behind you, then get ready to jump up.
Jump up (without leaving the ground) and swing the kettlebell up. You should be standing tall at the peak of the movement.
Reverse the movement and bring the kettlebell back down and behind you.
Repeat.
Tip from Coach Matt: during the kettlebell swing, focus on hinging your hips. The swing is like a deadlift movement, so you should feel it in your hamstring and glutes.
#5) BENT OVER ROW
Get down into a bent-over, flat-back position and grab the kettlebell with one arm.
Pick up the kettlebell by driving your elbow up into your rib cage.
Lower the kettlebell back down by reversing the movement.
Tip from Coach Matt: try to keep your back straight and stomach tight during the row. This will help engage your legs for stabilization as you pull the kettlebell toward your stomach.
#6) FRONT RACK REVERSE LUNGE
Grab the kettlebell with one hand and rest the weight between your arm and chest.
Step your leg back (the same side your kettlebell is on) and lower down until your shin is parallel-ish with the ground (or as low as you can).
Spring back up to your starting position.
Tip from Coach Matt: for the lunges, again keep your back straight. This reduces pressure on your lower back.
Boom! There you have it.
The 6 best kettlebell exercises for beginners.
If you want someone to review your form on any of these kettlebell movements, or you’re looking to level up your kettlebell game, our coaches can do just that! Our spiffy mobile app lets you send a video of your exercises directly to your coach, who will provide feedback so you can perfect your technique.
In case you’re still on the fence about grabbing a kettlebell, let’s dig into them a little bit more.[1]
What Type of Kettlebell Is Best? What Is the Best Kettlebell Weight for Me?
So you want to buy a kettlebell, eh?
They come in all sorts of materials, in all sorts of shapes, and in all sorts of sizes.
Which one you pick will come down to your personal preference, your budget, and your experience with kettlebells.
Let’s contemplate the following when picking the right kettlebell:
#1) Standard vs.Competition. A standard traditional kettlebell will be cast iron, and as the weight goes up, the dimensions go up.
For example, a 16kg (35 lb.) bell will be larger than a 6kg (15lb) bell. This isn’t true for competitive kettlebells.
No matter their weight, competitive kettlebells will have the same dimensions for bell shape, base, and handle width.
So the 16kg will look just like the 6kg. This can be helpful to make sure you are consistent with your technique.
#2) Weight. In general, pick a weight that allows you to complete a workout with good form.
When in doubt, start with a lighter weight, as you can always increase the weight/size later. If you’re forcing me to pick one for you, knowing NOTHING about you, I’d say consider purchasing a 16kg (35 lbs) if you’re a male or 12kg (25 lbs) if you’re a female.
Now, this isn’t an exact science, and we are all unique snowflakes. If you think you’re stronger than average, go heavier. Not quite there? Go lighter.
#3) Ballistic vs. Grind. You’ll often hear the terms ballistic and grinding in kettlebell workout discussions, for fast and slow movements respectively.
Ballistic movements would be quick, like the kettlebell swing.
Grinding movements would be slow, like the overhead press. For ballistic movements, you might actually want a heavier kettlebell, to help with momentum.
For grinding movements, less weight might be in order to help with control.
For now, if you are just starting out, go ahead and stick to one kettlebell. Branch out as you advance in experience.
#4) Handle. This is where quality comes into play. You’ll be doing many, many repetitions with your kettlebell.
If the handle has rough edges, you’ll feel each and every one of the movements cut into your hand.
Not fun.
Quality matters when it comes to handles. So we’ll chat about ideal brands in a moment. I’ll end our discussion on handles by saying they are generally standardized at 35mm for thickness.
Use this as your baseline for differences when comparing bell grips.
Okay, let’s talk about kettlebell brands:
#1) Cap Barbell. This would be an ideal first kettlebell. Not too expensive and of decent quality, Cap Barbell kettlebells can be found on Amazon or at any Walmart.
The Cap Barbell is the most highly reviewed and reasonably priced kettlebell we have encountered. Do you have any experience with one?
Let us know in the comments if you like it!
#2) Kettlebell Kings. You see Kettlebell Kings ranked as some of the best bells out there. Not a bad price for the quality.
Plus, they offer free shipping in the US, which is nice since you’re essentially mailing a cannonball.
#3) Dragon Door. Some call Dragon Door the gold standard of anything and everything “kettlebell.”
I wouldn’t disagree, but expect to pay for it.
#4) Onnit. Onnit rocks and they offer good quality bells that are quite popular.
#5) Home Gym Equipment companies have grown massively in recent years, which is great for you as a consumer! You can also find great Kettlebell options at reputable home gym companies like Rogue Fitness, REP Fitness, and Fringe Sport. (Special shout out to FringeSport for loaning us equipment to run Camp Nerd Fitness in the past!) You can’t go wrong with any of these options.
OUR ADVICE: Before you go buy an expensive kettlebell, check your gym!
I bet it has kettlebells, and you can try out different brands/ sizes/ weights/ styles to see which one you like the best.
Check out Craigslist or a used sporting goods store like Play it Again Sports for a previously owned kettlebell from a person who no longer needs it.
A used kettlebell is still a kettlebell.
Crafty? Build your own!
Here’s a video on how to make a kettlebell:
If you make your own kettlebell (be careful – you don’t want it breaking mid-swing!), please email me. I would be so pumped!
And if you need help with ALL of this and just want somebody to tell you how to train, I got you covered too.
The Intermediate Kettlebell Workout
If you’ve been rocking and rolling with the Beginner Kettlebell Workoutfor a while, it might be time to switch things up for a more challenging routine.
What should you do?
Try our intermediate workout above!
It’ll have you doing moves like:
Kettlebell Lateral Goblet Lunges
Kettlebell Renegade Rows
Here’s the Intermediate Kettlebell Workout as an infographic:
The workout is your perfect next step if the beginner version got a little too easy.
Want another full-body movement you can do with the kettlebell? Try adding in the Turkish Get-Up ~ perhaps the most famous kettlebell movement outside of the kettlebell swing!
Can You Lose Weight with Kettlebells?
If you’re trying to lose weight, a kettlebell and the workout routines above would be a great part of the plan!
The other part of the plan should be your nutrition.
As we lay out in our Coaching Program and our massive guide on “Healthy Eating,” we believe that proper nutrition is 80-90% of the equation for weight loss.
No joke.
It’s by far the biggest factor for success.
So will you lose weight training with kettlebells?
Maybe!
If you fix your diet AND begin to incorporate our kettlebell routine a few times per week, you’ll will find yourself building muscle, losing fat, and getting stronger!
If your goal is weight loss, you have to eat less than you burn each day. This can be through eating less and burning more (from the kettlebell workout above)
Processed foods and junk food make it really tough to lose weight: They have lots of calories and carbs, low nutritional value, don’t fill you up, and cause you to overeat.
Liquid calories are sabotaging your efforts. Soda, juice, sports drinks: they’re all pretty much high-calorie sugar water with minimal nutritional value. Get your caffeine from black coffee or tea, fizzy-drink fix from sparkling water.
Not losing weight? Track your calories and work on consuming slightly less each day. We tackle this point in-depth in our article “Why can’t I lose weight?”
Eat more protein! Protein helps rebuild muscle, and can help you stay under your calorie limit because it’s satiating and filling. Here’s exactly how much protein you should be eating every day.
Those tips should get you started, but if you want more specific instruction and guidance, check out the NF Coaching Program – Your Coach will build a routine tailored to your individual needs and what equipment you have available:
Download the Kettlebell Worksheet!
Like most things in life, the important aspect of any exercise regimen is starting it.
No matter what strength training program you choose, start TODAY.
You don’t need to get strong before you can play with a kettlebell. You can play with a kettlebell to get stronger!
Here’s that Beginner Kettlebell Workout one more time to recap:
Halos: 8 reps each side
Goblet Squats: 10 reps
Overhead Presses: 8 reps
Kettlebell Swings -or- Romanian Deadlifts: 15 reps
Bent Over Rows: 8 reps each side
Front Rack Reverse Lunge: 6 reps each side
Here are the next two steps you can take with our community if you dig what we do!
1) Check out our 1-on-1 Online Coaching program. Our coaches can work with you to pick up a kettlebell for the first time or to learn more advanced moves.
Whether you are brand new to your fitness journey, or ready to take it to the next level, we have your back!
2) Join the Rebellion! Join our free community with a biweekly newsletter, and I’ll send you our Beginner Kettlebell Worksheet.
Simply sign up in the box below, and let us know what you think of it!
Grab Your Beginner Kettlebell Routine Worksheet!
Complete this workout at home or gym with 1 kettlebell.
Avoid the common mistakes everybody makes when doing kettlebell exercises.
Build strength, burn fat, level up your life!
For the Rebellion!
-Steve
PS: If you are using Kettlebells to get started with Strength Training, make sure you read the other articles in our Strength Training series!
The idea of eating detoxifying foods might feel like a fad. It’s often linked to trendy teas, shakes, powders, herbs, juices, or supplements that claim to remove all the toxins from your bloodstream in a “miraculously” short amount of time.
Although it’s been co-opted as a marketing tactic by the diet industry, as a nutrition therapist myself, I can tell you that the process of detoxification offers many health benefits. (And no, you don’t need to be an expert to know how reap those benefits.)
I want to cut through all the buzz and hype and get right into what we all need to know about eating detoxifying foods. Plus, we’ll talk about how a few simple swaps can have a significant impact on your health and well-being (hint: you don’t need an entire “detox diet” or “expensive juice cleanse” to reap the benefits).
As a disclaimer, I want to emphasize that no foods are inherently evil—food is fuel; we need it for energy, alertness, endurance, strength, and wellness. Some foods have more nutritional density than others, but all foods are permissible and can be part of a balanced and joyful lifestyle. Listen to your body and your own specific needs, then make dietary choices that feel nourishing to you.
Managing Toxins in Today’s World
There are thousands of toxic chemicals in the products we use, the clothes we wear, the foods we eat, and even the environment around us. Many of us are exposed to these chemicals on a daily basis, which can lead to major health concerns over time.
According to the Environmental Protection Agency, here are a few ways that toxins impact many aspects of our health, including:
Compromised immune function
Hormonal imbalances
Increased cholesterol levels
Reproductive or fertility issues
Hypertension in pregnant women
Elevated risk of cancer
It’s crucial to be aware that pesticides, antibiotics, preservatives, and artificial ingredients that are in many of the mass-market brands and processed food in grocery store aisles. However, while these chemicals can increase the toxic load in our systems, we don’t have to give them up altogether.
The beautiful thing is that our bodies were designed with the ability to detoxify. It’s incredible. We have detoxification pathways that move toxins through our body to protect our health. The problem comes when either our detoxification pathways aren’t working as they should (they’re sluggish) or our toxic load gets so high that our body’s innate detoxification pathways can’t keep up.
This is why the goal is to balance and bring other foods into your diet to minimize the impact of these toxins and support our body’s natural detox pathways.
How Detoxing Foods Help
Detoxifying foods help your liver utilize GST enzymes, which are responsible for flushing out the harmful chemicals we take in. This lowers oxidative stress to protect us from chronic illness, bolster our various organ functions, and even sharpen our brain health. In short: nutrition cleanses us naturally from the inside out.
When you work some of the foods I share below into your diet, you can reduce your risk of:
Chronic inflammation
Reproductive issues
Cardiovascular problems
Immune dysfunction
Cognitive impairment
The Best Foods for Detoxification and Their Benefits
The first thing to know is that products in the grocery store promoted as “detox food” or the newest fad detox supplement are not what we’re looking for. To reap the physical and mental health benefits of detoxifying foods, choose whole foods that are high in antioxidants. (I get into some great examples of these foods in a minute—don’t worry, I’ve got you covered!)
These organic compounds neutralize free radical molecules (which occur due to chemical exposure and cause damage to the cells), so you can metabolize and eliminate those toxins.
Many antioxidant-rich foods also contain probiotics, fiber, and omega-3 fatty acids, which can aid in healthy digestion and contribute to a diverse gut microbiome. Here is a wide range of detoxifying foods to add to your grocery list.
Cruciferous Vegetables
Brussels sprouts, cabbage, radishes, broccoli, cauliflower, and leafy greens will help your liver create a protein called glutathione, which it uses to excrete harmful chemicals. These cruciferous vegetables also contain many vitamins, minerals, and bioactive metabolites that can protect against cancer.
Almonds, walnuts, flax, hemp, sesame, chia, and sunflower seeds can lower your risk of diabetes, stroke, infections, heart issues, metabolic syndrome, cancer, and all-cause mortality. These benefits are due to their protein, fiber, antimicrobial, and antioxidant profile, which helps manage the effects of inflammation.
Kimchi, yogurt, sauerkraut, miso, tofu, kefir, seaweed, or pickled vegetables contain healthy bacteria (including probiotics) that will cleanse and improve your gut microbiota. The fermentation process also releases organic molecules to promote intestinal health, lower cholesterol, and boost immunity.
Ginger, onions, chives, shallots, garlic, leeks, and turmeric have a high concentration of antioxidants to help lower inflammation, oxidative stress, blood pressure, and metabolic dysfunction. The sulfur content in many allium vegetables has also been found to treat the effects of toxic heavy metal absorption.
Grapefruits, lemons, oranges, limes, and all types of berries contain a wide range of antioxidants (ex. phenolic acid, luteolin, flavanone, anthocyanin, chalcone, etc.). These nutrients combat the free radicals known to cause tissue damage, viral or bacterial infections, and cancer or other chronic diseases.
We’re all about the healthy fat here at Lindywell because of the goodness it provides our minds and bodies. Avocados, soybeans, mackerel, sardines, tuna, salmon, and pasture-raised eggs contain omega-3 fatty acids from natural oils, which act as a line of defense against cadmium exposure. This heavy metal can harm your immune function, musculoskeletal growth, nervous system, and vital organs. However, omega-3 fatty acids will form a protective barrier around your cells to decrease absorption.
Choosing detoxifying foods isn’t just about supporting liver health, boosting your immune system or toxin elimination—though those are all great benefits! The foods you consume can also help cultivate radical self-love, nourishment, and balance. Not only will optimal nutrition make you feel more energetic, and vibrant—but it can also promote mindful, intuitive eating habits that help to heal your relationship with food.
So, what does it look like to bring this all together? Here’s a little cheat sheet to create some tasty meals each week!
Breakfasts:
Vanilla chia seed parfait
Avocado toast with eggs and scallions
Ginger and grapefruit smoothie
Almond flour blueberry muffins
Lunches:
Mexican quinoa, avocado, and citrus salad
Poached egg, leafy green, and cauliflower rice bowl
Maple roasted Brussels sprouts salad
Salmon, tofu, and buckwheat noodle soup
Dinners:
Broccoli, onion, and tofu green curry
Chicken orzo stew with lemon, garlic, and leeks
Slow-roasted salmon with fennel and citrus
Ginger, miso, and tahini squash soup with brown rice
Snacks and Desserts:
Spinach, egg, and shallot quinoa bites
Miso-glazed whole nuts and seeds
Ginger and turmeric cookies with vanilla icing
Lemon, blueberry, and yogurt bark
Beyond Nutrition: Other Holistic Detox Practices
Eating nutrient-rich foods is just one way to stimulate the body’s natural detoxification process. Now let’s turn our attention to a couple of other holistic wellness practices that you can work into your routine—alongside nutrition—for balance, cleansing, and renewal.
Optimal Hydration: There’s a direct correlation between high water intake and a lower risk of all-cause mortality. That’s because optimal hydration activates the liver enzymes to flush out waste products, carcinogens, and other harmful toxins while promoting healthy nutrient digestion and absorption. Most people need about half their body weight in ounces – and possibly more depending on how rich your diet is in fruits and vegetables, weather, activity level, phase of menstrual cycle, and other factors that impact water intake and needs.
Physical Activities: Regular movement helps open your detoxification pathways and in turn, decreases inflammation. This lowers oxidative stress so your cells can purge excess liver build-up more efficiently. If you struggle to make time for movement, start your 14-day free trial of Lindywell to get instant access to 350+ on-demand Pilates classes.
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Ready to embrace a deep sense of renewal from the inside out and support your overall health, both mind and body? Bring some detoxifying foods into your diet and join us here at Lindywell. Our online community will empower you with the tools to nourish your mental and physical wellness so you can flourish in all areas of life.
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The health benefits of gardening go far beyond the delicious food, herbs, and flowers you harvest throughout the season. (Though there are few things as rewarding as biting into the food you grew yourself!)
That primal sensation of growing plants, touching the earth, basking in the sunshine, and nurturing seeds rejuvenates both your mental and physical well-being. Although I don’t always have time to garden, I have high hopes for starting a garden every year because I love all the benefits of it.
Those who do garden feel deeply rooted in the present in those moments, and that sense of presence is powerful for our mental health. But that’s not the only benefit. Being in nature, having your hands in the dirt, and other aspects of gardening boost feelings of enjoyment and calm and promote self-care. Plus it can actually be a great low-impact movement option and help you feel more connected to others.
If you’re ready to start your first vegetable garden—or already love gardening and just want to learn more—let’s dive into why this is a great addition to your mental health toolkit.
The Wholesome Joys of Gardening
At Lindywell, we believe in living a wholistically healthy lifestyle. That means thinking about more than just what you eat and how you move. We also want you to do things that make you happy, reduce stress, and support your sleep. All of this impacts every aspect of your life in meaningful ways.
Gardening is a hobby that helps you reap all of those rewards, but it’s about so much more than just being in a green space, which we know reduces stress. Let’s get into the specifics of why you may need to become a garden gal this year!
Gardening for Your Physical Health
You may be surprised to know that gardening has physical benefits! Yes, gardening is a low-impact, moderate-intensity form of exercise that can easily be tailored to all mobility levels.
Interestingly, participating in this activity for about 150 minutes (2.5 hours) a week could lower your risk of chronic medical issues such as type-2 diabetes, high blood pressure, cardiovascular disease, or even cancer, while bolstering resilience and life satisfaction. Sign me up!
The functional movements associated with this physical activity can also increase flexibility, strength, bone density, balance, and range of motion—all of which we need now and as we age joyfully. Meanwhile, getting sunshine will stimulate Vitamin D production, which regulates your metabolism, enhances sleep quality, reduces inflammation, and protects against arthritis or chronic pain.
As if it couldn’t get any better, eating fresh produce from your garden will nurture a healthy gut microbiome thanks to the vitamin-synthesizing bacteria in the soil. This helps you digest vital nutrients like fiber, iron, selenium, antioxidants, and Vitamins C and K—all of which the body requires to perform essential organ, cellular, and brain functions. And that’s just the start of the benefits!
Gardening to Connect With Nature
Almost 90 percent of gardeners feel the main benefit of this activity is a connection to nature. Gardening is full of sensory and somatic practices like breathing in the fresh air, listening to the sounds of birds, or noticing how soil feels on your skin.
This can help you tune out distractions and immerse yourself in natural surroundings, dissipating your stress as the peace sets in. I can feel that ease even just thinking about it. Time spent in nature has a soothing effect on the neuroendocrine system as well, reducing cortisol levels, which can boost immune function and mood.
Ultimately, the stronger your connection to nature, the deeper the sense of fulfillment you’ll have. Connecting back to nature is specifically associated with mental health, emotional balance, vitality, personal growth, stress relief, self-acceptance, joyfulness, and meaning in life. All of which can help reset the nervous system, too. (And most of us can use more nervous system support!)
Gardening for Mindfulness
Gardening as a therapeutic intervention shares many similarities with mindfulness practices such as meditation, breathwork, gratitude affirmations, or gentle movement. Those who garden often report a heightened awareness of the present, which reinforces attentional focus, cognitive function, self-efficacy, and positive mental health outcomes.
Gardening for Stress Relief and Mental Health Benefits
This is thanks to the restorative effects of nature, which create a psychological response to stabilize blood pressure and cortisol levels, thus increasing your mood, positive affect, and emotional regulation. This is actually called horticultural therapy and it’s been documented since the 19th century!
Plus, interacting with flowers, plants, and other natural elements can calm the autonomic nervous system, which has also been shown to strengthen mental resilience and promote healthy stress management. The more resilience you cultivate, the easier it becomes to recover from stressful circumstances, adapt to challenges, and steer clear of harmful coping mechanisms or impulsive reactions.
Gardening for Self-Esteem and Connection
As if it couldn’t get any better, gardening can also boost your self-esteem, happiness, quality of life, and mental wellbeing. If you plant in a community garden, social interaction can also cause you to experience less loneliness and feel more connection and cohesion.
Community gardening is a great way to get to know the people around you if you’re new to your area or just haven’t had a chance to connect yet—another important aspect of your mental health.
Now I’m really ready to finally get into the garden! It’s incredible to me what a positive impact this hobby can have on our lives.
Grow, Flourish, and Thrive with Lindywell
Here at Lindywell, we’re all about making play a daily habit and taking care of your whole self—mind and body! Gardening checks each of those boxes, not to mention, the results are so worthwhile. Soaking in the beauty of colorful flowers or taking a bite of fresh, juicy tomatoes make summer even better.
If you’re looking for more enjoyable, therapeutic ways to nurture your well-being and flourish in all areas of life, come grow with us at Lindywell. As a member of our vibrant, global community, you get access to nourishing recipes (that you’ll need with all that fresh produce!), mindful breathwork sessions, and 350+ Pilates classes to help you thrive from the inside out. Start your 14-day free trial now!
Not everyone is a natural “morning person.” I, however, have always been one of those annoyingly chipper morning people who wake up jumping out of bed. That’s not always the case now. From having kids to life getting hard, no matter how much of a “morning person” I am—it’s not always easy to wake up feeling excited about the possibilities of a new day.
In good times or bad, more often than not, we’re rushing around to look presentable for a Zoom meeting or to ensure the kids get to school on time while downing a cup of coffee and barely remembering to eat breakfast. Does any of this sound familiar? I’m right there with you!
Sure, the frenzied pace of some mornings can feel hectic and stressful—I know I have to intentionally control my flurry of thoughts in the morning. My mind races with energy. But, if your mind starts to race with overwhelming, panicked, or intrusive thoughts regularly, before your feet even touch the floor, a deeper mental health issue could be lurking beneath the surface.
This might be an indication of morning anxiety. What I want you to know, first and foremost, is that this doesn’t need to be the norm for you—you can shake that morning anxiety. Secondly, getting a deeper understanding of your unique experience will help you overcome it.
Let’s unpack all of this so you can start to have a fresher, brighter start to the day.
Understanding the Causes of Your Morning Anxiety
While “morning anxiety” is not an official diagnosis, it’s more common than you might realize to deal with. Maybe some of this sounds familiar to you:
Fear of not being able to complete all the tasks on your schedule.
Feeling like you’re disappointing your spouse or kids.
Worrying about running late and people being mad at you.
Struggling to navigate work and home expectations, which makes you feel like you’re always failing.
All of this can (understandably!) make starting the day feel almost impossible—and while many of us experience similar anxieties, the cause for them is different for each of us.
To combat this morning anxiety, you need to know why it’s impacting you in particular. This will help you figure out what you need to do to overcome it. Here are just a few common culprits to consider as potential anxiety-drivers in your life.
Chronically High Cortisol Levels
Cortisol (or stress hormone levels) immediately start to rise each morning within the first 30–60 minutes of being awake. This is your body’s way of priming your brain circuits for alertness and optimal function.
But if cortisol production is too high (due to chronic stress or circadian rhythm imbalance), it can elevate your morning blood pressure, heart rate, and autonomic nervous system. These sensations activate the body’s “fight-or-flight” response, which often leads to anxiety.
Insomnia or Sleep Disturbances
According to the Behavioral Sciences Journal, frequent bouts of insomnia, sleep disturbances, or irregular sleep habits increase the overall risk of anxiety. That’s because chronic poor sleep quality throws off your body’s natural secretion of melatonin and serotonin, which are responsible for stabilizing your mood.
Excess Sugar or Caffeine Intake
We’ve all heard coffee can be bad for us, and in this case, it can be playing a role in your morning anxiety. A recent study in the Cureus Journal found that increasing caffeine consumption leads to higher anxiety levels. Plus, excessive sugar intake can lead to inflammation in the body, which also contributes to anxiety.
Not Enough Balance in Your Life
Being able to maintain an intentional balance between family priorities, work obligations, and personal wellness is hard (I know how challenging this can be personally)—and yet it’s vital for reducing chronic stress, anxiety, and emotional burnout. (This is why we say play is important for all of us to reduce stress!)
From finishing work projects and shuttling the kids to soccer practice to figuring out dinner and ensuring the bills are paid on time, there’s a relentless task list competing for your attention. This can cause mindFULLness to take root, which distracts you from the present and throws you off-balance, resulting in that all-too-familiar morning anxiety and sense of overwhelm.
Practical Strategies to Help Relieve Morning Anxiety
It may not be cut and dry on what is causing your morning anxiety; it’s likely a blend of those causes mixed in with your own unique challenges. That’s okay. For right now, go with your gut—when you read the list in the section above, which ones cause a little “ping” in your mind? (Even if you’re trying to ignore that ping!)
I want you to follow that little gut feeling as you read these strategies so you can focus on the options that are best suited to what you really need.
Establish a peaceful morning rhythm.
All the talk about morning routines is more than just hype. People who form a daily routine are more likely to experience a sense of meaning in their lives. Here’s the thing: this routine doesn’t have to be elaborate for you to reap the mental health benefits. Keep it simple. Choose up to 3 small things you can do to create a rhythm. The goal is to soothe anxious feelings as you transition into a new day. Here’s a big list of self-care activities to incorporate into your morning routine if you want some ideas to get started!
Tune into your body
All that noise that causes the anxiety is in your head. Take time to get out of your head (and all that noise) and instead listen to your body.A few of my favorite ways to do that include meditation, breathwork, body scans, and Pilates. When you tune into the sensations and experiences of the moment you’re in, you can reduce the stress associated with worrying about the past or thinking about the future.
Integrate movement into your routine.
Exercise is a natural mood enhancer. Block out time in your schedule for physical activities, no matter what time of day it is. But remember: this doesn’t have to mean going to the gym or lifting weights if that doesn’t feel good for you. Focus on mindful movement and choose activities that you actually enjoy doing. If you struggle to get going in the morning, try Lindywell’s 10-minute Energizing Morning Pilates Routine. Start your 14-day free trial and try it tomorrow moring!
Seek out extra support if you need to.
There’s no shame in asking for help when the anxiety is too debilitating to overcome on your own. Seeking this support was critical to my healing process—and I wish I had asked for it sooner. Check out Psychology Today’s directory of therapists and mental health professionals to find support that’s right for you. Don’t forget that talking to your friends, family, and network can be helpful too. Sometimes just saying it out loud is the relief that you need!
Adjust expectations with compassion.
If your anxious feelings come from unrealistic expectations, rethinking those expectations can be an effective antidote. Rather than holding yourself to certain ideals or performance metrics, embrace self-compassion and shift your mindset to “grace over guilt” (a favorite mantra here at Lindywell).
Embrace Anxiety-Free Mornings with Lindywell
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As a Lindywell member, you have access to more than 350 Pilates classes, calming breathwork sessions, nourishing recipes, and other resources to help you overcome those anxious feelings and reclaim your well-being. Plus, 91% of our members say that Lindywell helps them stay consistent! Start your wellness journey with a free 14-day trial now!
Inner peace is so much more than just a brief escape from the chaotic events of daily life—though that’s what I thought it was many years ago too. What I learned, though, is that it’s actually this beautiful, continual state of being that you can harness in all environments, circumstances, and interactions.
When I began to live from this intentional space, after a few very challenging years life threw my way, I found I could unlock a deeper sense of balance, rootedness, connection, and presence. Even as challenges arose, I felt deeply grounded in my sense of calm.
Interestingly, even in our chaotic, unpredictable world, the majority of us (61 percent) hold onto inner peace during challenging times. This is uplifting news, of course—but what if you’re among the other 39 percent who do not feel a sense of inner peace?
Here’s the thing: as desirable as inner peace sounds, it does take intentional work to make it a reality. Let’s explore what it means to find more inner peace in your daily life—and break down how these 5 simple steps can help you get there!
Understanding the Essence of Inner Peace
Inner peace is defined as an essential facet of well-being, rooted in both mindfulness and equanimity (mental and emotional composure in difficult situations). Inner peace can help you maintain resilience, calmness, acceptance, contentment, harmony, and meaning in life—no matter the stressors you might face.
Research even shows that those who cultivate inner peace are also less likely to suffer from poor mental health outcomes such as anxiety or depression. So, how does inner peace manifest itself in action?
Inner peace is about learning how to accept this moment you’re in, release the need for control, lean into curiosity and compassion, and embrace your most authentic self. This can result in healthier relationships, stronger mental and emotional stability, and a clearer sense of who you are—all the unique traits you have to offer and the areas where you still have room for growth. Basically, inner peace is a mindset through which you view life. But to experience it, you’ll need to ask the question: What holds me back from inner peace?
Unpacking the Obstacles to Inner Peace
The first step to tapping into that inner peace is being aware of the obstacles standing between you and it. When you know what’s in the way, you can challenge each obstacle to create more of that balance and harmony.
Here are a few common (but totally manageable!) barriers that can prevent you from finding the inner peace you desire.
Mindfullness
You read that correctly—there’s a clear distinction between being mindfull versus mindful. Here at Lindywell, we love talking about the benefits of mindfulness, but mindfullness is the exact opposite. Operating with a full mind consumes your brain with relentless, anxious thoughts that distract you from the present and cause you to either dwell on the past or worry about the future. Mindfulness, however, will ground you in the rhythms, sensations, and experiences of this moment you’re living in.
Self-Judgment
Everyone makes poor choices, but how you respond to those mistakes will reveal whether or not you’re in a state of inner peace. You can learn, grow, and improve—or you can internalize shame and label yourself a failure.
Self-judgment can lead you to question your intrinsic worth and fall into the “fixed mindset” trap (a belief that your attributes are unchangeable). To find that daily inner peace, you have to overcome this form of toxic guilt.
Perfectionism
Women are especially prone to feeling like we’re under a microscope (either from society or ourselves) to look and behave by unrealistic ideals. If you have felt these expectations, then chances are, you’re no stranger to the pressure and weariness of striving for perfection.
Releasing the need to be perfect and maintain rigid control over yourself will create more opportunities to embrace the unexpected joys in life—no matter how wild, messy, and nonlinear your path might be. And in that special place between wild, messy, and happy, is where you can find a whole lot of peace.
False Narratives
The script you’ve written for yourself (whether or not it’s factual) can become the lens through which you construct meaning and perceive reality. While not all of these stories are harmful, a false narrative can hold you back from achieving your full potential, realizing your dreams, or ultimately finding inner peace.
False narratives are limiting beliefs that shake your self-esteem or deter you from pursuing the kind of life you want. But as the narrator, you can write a new and empowering story!
5 Strategies to Help You Achieve Inner Peace
Peace of mind ranks just below having basic needs met as a main predictor of longevity, life satisfaction, and subjective well-being, according to the Journal of Happiness Studies. Wow, that is incredible data and so hopeful!
Peace of mind is something you can choose and these five strategies will help lay the foundation for peaceful living until it becomes your natural and habitual response to whatever situations might arise.
1. Try Somatic Breathwork
Breathwork changed my life. In particular, somatic breathwork, which we love most here at Lindywell, can be powerful in connecting you to peace and balance. This is a practice that trains you to focus on bodily sensations, like the breath you’re taking in or tingling in your arms, to create deeper awareness and connection to the present.
The benefit of this style of breathing is that it takes you out of your head and into your body. We spend so much time in our heads but the body has so much to say. Listening to your body in this way can get you one step closer to feeling more peaceful each day.
2. Prioritize Movement—Outside
Most of us know that exercise releases endorphins and serotonin, which can stimulate positive feelings. But there’s also a correlation between physical activity outside and inner peace. Adults, 60 years and older in Brazil, who moved for 120 to 180 minutes a week reported being more likely to have healthy social interactions, robust mental wellness, and a thriving quality of life than their non-active peers—but these results were compounded when they did that movement outside.
Why? Nature naturally embodies that peace you’re craving. It’s tranquil and restorative and creates a sense of calm when you immerse yourself in it. Move your body outside and tune into the peace you feel as you walk through the grass or breathe in the fresh air.
3. Get Intentional About Stress Management
Stress is an inevitable part of life, but chronic stress can lead to both physical and mental health concerns, pushing you to burnout over time. Fortunately, with a little stress management, you can slow your heart rate, lower blood pressure, and relax the nervous system.
All of this makes it easier to navigate life without constant mental distress or hypervigilance that can make it challenging to access a greater sense of peace. Some stress management strategies I love, include:
Breathwork (of course!)
Walks outside
Dancing in your kitchen or taking a class (one of my personal favorites)
Barefoot walking (earthing)
Humming or singing
Play (I love building with Legos!)
Creating (painting, making clay pots—anything with your hands is good!)
4. Build Your Mental and Emotional Resilience
Resilience refers to the ability to adapt, recover, and thrive in the face of adversity, challenges, or setbacks, demonstrating flexibility, strength, and perseverance. And let’s be honest, there’s a lot of this in life! But that’s okay because it’s these moments that not only give us the chance to practice resilience but to tap into that inner reserve of peace within us.
One way to build your resilience muscle is to sit with hard feelings and emotions. The thing many people don’t realize is that emotions have sensations and that’s part of why we build this type of resilience and awareness—it gives you information so that when you see it again you can make a connection.
For example, every time I grind my teeth, I notice that I’m feeling an emotion. It’s all connected and the more we can make those connections, the more we can take action from a place of empowerment.
One way to start recognizing these connections is with your breath. If a difficult moment or feeling comes up, I take a few moments to let it be there instead of pushing it away. As I do, I take deep breaths and get curious:
What meaning am I giving this feeling?
Where do I feel it in my body?
What sensations are coming up?
What would happen if I could let it just be?
The more we can be present during a hard moment or emotion, the more resilient we become.
5. Explore Hobbies and Creative Outlets
Whether you pick up a coloring book, write in your journal, crochet a scarf, dance in the living room, or just make a little more time for play—there’s a direct link between creativity and inner peace. An artistic or creative outlet can promote self-efficacy, encourage internal reflection and expression, increase positive affect, and nurture a clearer sense of meaning in life, according to the Heliyon Journal.
You don’t have to create a masterpiece either—just give yourself freedom to experiment, and have fun with the process wherever it leads. Even blocking out time in your normal routine to do something fun and playful can unleash new sparks of creativity and inspiration to refresh your soul and make you smile—a win-win!
Make Lindywell Part of Your Journey to Inner Peace
Finding inner peace isn’t something you can do overnight—but it is possible if you choose to intentionally create more peace in your life. More importantly, there’s power in doing it with others. If you want to be part of a community that believes in the power of doing this beautiful work together, I invite you to join us here at Lindywell.
Embark on a free 14-day trial and unlock all our membership benefits, including access to 350+ online Pilates classes, breathwork sessions, and nourishing recipes, all intentionally curated to restore wellness, balance, and peace of mind.
The importance of recovery days cannot be overlooked. In most health-focused conversations, people and experts are often quick to focus on cultivating habits around physical activity, movement, or nutrition. While both of these are important (very important!), there’s something that gets easily overlooked: rest days.
I was totally caught off guard when I got my health diagnosis a few years ago—lab results showed that my hormones were all out of whack. While the test results revealed that an auto-immune disease was not currently present, she told me that I had to make changes. Thankfully, there were steps I could take to improve my health, but it would take time, intentionality, and perhaps most important of all, rest.
For some of us, that wake-up call to rest comes as a diagnosis, like mine did. For others, it comes in letting go of the belief that rest is lazy or “unproductive.”
Perhaps you’re like me right now: operating in a state of disconnection from your body, receiving warning signs to slow down, but still powering through. The problem is, this is a clear route to burnout.
I get it. In our fast-paced, high-intensity lives, rest can become more of an afterthought than a priority. However, we need it for both physical and mental health. As a busy mom, business owner, and someone who prioritizes relationships and cup-filling activities, I know it can feel hard to slow down. Yet, it’s one of the best things we can do for minds and bodies at every age.
If you to experience, wholistic health results, you have to rest. Let’s talk about why rest days are so important, why burnout is so dangerous, and how you can rest into your routine in a way that feels fulfilling and supportive.
Without Rest, Burnout is Inevitable
Do you often feel like you’re in motion all the time? I get it, I feel that way sometimes too. The thing is, this puts you at risk for burnout. This state of physical, emotional, and mental exhaustion is a result of chronic stress or overwhelm—and women can be particularly vulnerable to the insidious impact of burnout.
In fact, women report higher stress levels than men, according to a recent survey from the American Psychological Association. What’s more, women are also more likely to feel that no one recognizes how stressed out they are, often leaving them to carry the burden alone. I hate hearing this!
While burnout might seem like one of those realities of being an adult, over time, burnout can take a serious toll on your well-being, including:
Impaired memory or concentration
Decrease in attention span
Feeling unable to make decisions
Low resilience or self-esteem
Irritability, depression, or anxiety
Chronic fatigue or insomnia
Increase in substance use
Gastrointestinal problems
Headaches or musculoskeletal pain
Compromised immune function
Detachment or low motivation
High blood cortisol levels
General dissatisfaction with life
Although burnout is “considered” normal to some, the harmful effects of burnout don’t have to be your reality.” With rest and sleep built into your wellness routine, you can feel resilient, vibrant, and strong at every age—and still give yourself the slow-down you need.
The Power of Rest to Help You Combat Burnout
We live in a culture that glorifies constant productivity while minimizing the importance of rest. What’s easy to forget is that energy is a finite resource and the human body was not designed to function like a machine. Rest days nurture both your body and mind, providing essential muscle recovery and easing soreness while also offering your brain a much-needed pause to recharge and heal.
You will be more capable of handling a busy routine when you make it a habit to pause and refresh. But you don’t have to believe me. Let’s see what the science says!
Rest Stimulates Physical Recovery
Movement is an integral part of any wellness routine, but if you exercise without prioritizing rest, it’s much harder to sustain the health benefits you’re working toward. A lack of rest can deplete energy levels, increase stress hormones, and keep the body in a catabolic state (high blood pressure, heart rate, and respiration), which affects muscle repair and elevates injury risk.
On the other hand, resting after exercise promotes an anabolic state, which will help the body re-energize and the muscles recover from muscle soreness. The physical recovery benefits alone are a good enough reason to rest for me!
Rest Promotes Confidence
When you make time to unplug from distractions or obligations to enjoy a creative, restful form of leisure, this can do wonders for your mental health. A recent study in the British Journal of Psychiatry found that hobbies like reading for pleasure, listening to music, doing craft projects, or cultivating an at-home garden can lower depression and anxiety.
Slowing down and unplugging are also connected to things I know all of us want to experience, like higher self-esteem, mood state, resilience, empowerment, and life satisfaction! Even in the busiest seasons, intentional leisure is so valuable.
Rest Helps You Manage Stress
Stressful circumstances are part of life, but chronic stress can make you more susceptible to health issues like hypertension or coronary heart disease. This is why building restful practices, like finding inner peace and setting mindful intentions, into your routine is vital to creating resilience so you can manage the inevitable stress of life.
For example, research deep breathing techniques (6 slow diaphragmatic breaths for 30 seconds) can ease the body’s stress response, calm the autonomic nervous system, stabilize heart rate, and regulate intense emotions.
Rest Boosts Your Brain
Mental fatigue will often set in when you have to focus on a difficult task for long periods. This can also drain important mental skills, like alertness, concentration, reaction speed or accuracy, and flexible thinking.
If you feel maxed out after a strenuous day, mental fatigue could be the culprit. Letting your brain rest periodically (even just for 20 minutes at a time) can alleviate the emotional pressures of mental fatigue and stimulate your brain to work the way you need it to.
How to Make Rest Part of Your Routine
At Lindwell, we love the science, but we also love practical strategies! Even more, we know that it doesn’t need to be complicated to feel great, and the same goes for building rest into your routine. The whole point of rest is to create balance and ease in your life, not pile onto all the other activities competing for your attention. So, let’s focus on just two simple (and enjoyable!) ways you can make rest a priority for your mental, emotional, and physical well-being.
Schedule a Physical “Rest Day” Each Week
Typically, a physical rest day is a 12-hour period that you set aside to recover from an intense workout or other rigorous activities. The best way to do this is through active rest, which involves gentle movement to help promote blood flow, aid recovery and prevent stiffness and muscle soreness.
As a result, this type of active recovery day can support lean muscle growth, build strength, preserve bone density, increase endurance, and boost energy levels. Yes, please! To reap the benefits on your rest days, focus on activities that encourage mindfulness and gentle physical movement, like:
You might think of a mental “rest day” as the opportunity for a Netflix marathon on the couch—but that’s not quite what I mean here (although sometimes we need those kinds of rest days too!)
What I’m talking about here is self-care, which refers to any restorative practice that nurtures a sense of inner peace, wellness, and balance. This type of sufficient rest is crucial not just as a counterbalance to your workout routine but as a foundational element of overall health. Plus, self-care also teaches you to cultivate healthy coping skills to reduce stress, which can lower the risk of both mental and physical illness. It seems like a no-brainer!
Similar to physical rest, schedule self-care into your calendar! Choose at least one day a week to take care of you, fully and completely. If you need some ideas to add to your list of daily practices, we have you covered with 25 Self-Care Sunday Ideas to Nurture Your Mind and Body.
Prioritize Rest to Feel Good, Mind and Body
If you’re looking for more effective ways to incorporate rest into your routine, join Lindywell with a 14-day free pilates trial! As a member, you’ll have access to gentle Pilates classes, restorative breathwork sessions, nourishing meal plans, and other self-care resources to help you carve out sustainable rest amid life’s hectic pace. Then if you’ve got your rest days down and are ready for more challenging movement, we have lots of strenuous workouts to choose from, including our strength-training series or Pilates advanced flow series. For additional insights and practical advice, we invite you to explore our related articles, designed to help you elevate your workout routine and overall wellness.
Daily intentions and mindful living go hand-in-hand. Mindfulness doesn’t exclusively occur in a meditation class or on a Pilates mat (although these practices can be instrumental in helping you cultivate it). Mindfulness can permeate and enrich all facets of your life no matter where you are or what you’re doing.
But how do you make mindful living a natural, intuitive, habitual response in the midst of other obligations or distractions competing for your attention?
This is something I struggled with back in 2020 when it felt like the world was crashing down around all of us. The social and political unrest, coupled with challenges in my own personal life, made it feel like living mindfully was impossible—and painful.
I learned that creating daily intentions or even micro moments, can be a simple, beautiful way to start leaning into mindful living—even when life feels hard. At Lindywell, intentionality is at the core of what we do, providing strategies like gratitude affirmations and the healing power of the breath to forge a strong bond between mindfulness and intention. These practices are not just about cultivating a positive mindset but are essential tools for navigating life with grace and resilience.
So come with me as I share about what mindful living means and along with a few simple steps to start infusing meaningful daily intentions into your wellness routine.
The Power of Mindful Living
Mindfulness is a mental state characterized by a focused and nonjudgmental awareness of the present moment. It involves paying deliberate attention to thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations, and the surrounding environment without becoming overwhelmed or reactive.
According to Frontiers in Psychology, those who prioritize mindfulness in their daily lives are more likely to exhibit resilience, emotional regulation, acceptance of themselves and others, social sensitivity, personal well-being, life satisfaction, and a capacity to face obstacles without losing perspective. They’re also less prone to psychological distress (anxiety, depression, etc.). This practice plays a crucial role in mental health, allowing you to better manage stress and focus on personal growth.
Ultimately, the goal of mindfulness is to cultivate a deeper sense of connection to yourself and to others, more intentionality in your relationships, improved focus, more self-awareness, better concentration, and an overall better quality of life. A clear intention and goal setting are not just strategies but pathways to a more authentic self.
As such, “mindful living” is a holistic integration of mindfulness into your present life, which allows you to:
Improve your relationships and social interactions.
Nurture self-compassion.
Cultivate a deeper sense of curiosity about the world.
Who doesn’t want to experience those incredible benefits? I know I do. And I do experience them as someone who lives mindfully more often than not—though not always because I’m not perfect, no one is!
The Link Between Mindfulness and Intention
Daily intentions reflect deliberate choices to cultivate the experience and outlook you want in life. The objective of intentional living is not to enforce rigid expectations on yourself or to manufacture a certain performance outcome. Rather, the goal is to honestly reflect on which thoughts, decisions, commitments, actions, and priorities align with your intrinsic values as a person.
Intentions help clarify what matters to you and how to chart your course in the right direction. They also empower you to ask courageous, introspective questions that reveal which aspects of yourself need extra care, focus, accountability, or even change. In other words, adopting daily intention setting is a powerful way to stay mindful as we navigate the challenges we’ll all inevitably face.
This can feel vulnerable and uncomfortable at first. The more you push through the discomfort, however, and live from this intentional space, the more mindful you become and the greater ease you’ll feel in all aspects of life.
Start your free trial of Lindywell to practice this mindfulness with a little guidance. Whether you’re doing one of our 300+ Pilates workouts or sitting through an on-demand guided breathwork with me, you’ll be building your mindfulness muscle!
5 Steps for Building Daily Intentions Into Your Routine
On average, it takes about 90 to 110 days of repetition for a new behavior to turn into a habit, so I want to start with this reminder: you have to commit to this practice of daily intentions if you want to see change long-term. When you do that, though, mindful living becomes natural. And let me tell you: it’s absolutely worth it!
Use these five steps to build intentions into your routine for a life of abundance, joyfulness, connection, and presence.
1. Ask Yourself Thoughtful Questions and Answer Honestly
Think about your goals, desires, values, and aspirations. What you care about helps determine which intentions to focus on. I want you to let go of toxic guilt and tap into your true desires. Carve out time for self-reflection and journal your answers to the following questions. From there, some potential daily intentions can begin to take shape.
What lights me up inside? Can I focus my energy there?
Where do I want to grow in my life?
What is an unfulfilled desire I have been putting off?
What mindset shifts do I want to cultivate, or what attributes do I want to embody?
Where could I make an impact in the world?
What limiting beliefs presently hold me back from being fully alive?
2. Be Sure Your Intentions Are Clear, Simple, and Attainable
The human brain is a multi-faceted organism, but it also needs a certain degree of simplicity. According to neuroscientist Amishi Jha, if whatever you’re focusing on feels too complex, your attention span will start to wander, making being present (being mindful) difficult.
To make your daily intentions effective and sustainable, don’t aim for the loftiest ambitions. Choose something clear and simple that you can feasibly incorporate into your routine. This will keep your attention fixed on a singular, attainable focal point, so you don’t get lost in the minutia of unrealistic expectations, which can lead to disappointment and frustration.
Powerful daily intentions, when set as a clear specific goal, not only foster motivation but also make success possible! You’re not just thinking about what you want to do—you have a plan to get there.
3. Frame Your Intentions Through a Lens of Empowerment
I like to say, don’t should all over yourself! Make sure your daily intentions empower you to embrace growth, authenticity, evolution, and well-being. If your intentions are rooted in shame or built around the assumption of how you “should” behave, this will only reinforce intrusive thoughts, harmful patterns, and limiting beliefs, which act as a barrier to mindful living.
Another study from Frontiers in Psychology found that negative emotions lead to ruminations on failure, counterproductive behaviors, and feelings of incompetence, all of which can stunt your growth potential. Intentions are meant to inspire and motivate, not burden you with pressure— that’s why we believe in the mantra of “grace over guilt” here at Lindywell.
4. Write Down Your Intentions and Keep Them Within Reach
New goal-setting research indicates that writing down what you hope to achieve in descriptive terms and even imagery will make you more likely to accomplish it. The reason for this is a neuroscientific process called encoding. When you write something, it tells your brain this information is worth storing as a long-term memory, similar to the way documenting positive statements for affirmations reinforces their importance.
Bottom line: writing down your intentions will help you articulate and remember the intentions you’ve set, which boosts the capacity to act on them. The more colorful your description, the easier it is to recall, so have fun with this!
Once you establish the right intention, you can also jot it down on a sticky note or note card and put it in a visible spot that you read as part of your morning routine or just notice throughout the day. This visual reminder will be a powerful tool to keep that intention front and center. Here are some examples of daily intentions:
I will honor my needs in one small way every single day.
I will spend time maintaining relationships with long-distance family members.
I will create space for joy every single day.
5. Turn Your Intentions into Meaningful Action
The final component in this mindful living journey is to transform your intention from words into action. Below are some examples of daily intentions and the action steps needed to achieve them. You’ll see here that the action is very specific. When you know exactly what you need to do, you’re more likely to do it!
Intention: I will honor my needs in one small way every single day.
Action: Each day I will choose one thing to do solely for me, whether that’s a workout, a walk, or drinking a cup of coffee during my alone time.
Intention: I will spend time maintaining relationships with long-distance family members.
Action: I will prioritize honest communication and quality time with my loved ones each week. This could mean scheduling a phone call, or sending a text message to let them know that you’re thinking about them.
Intention: I will create space for joy every single day.
Action: I will add one spot in my weekly schedule for a playful activity or fun creative hobby and I will find an opportunity to laugh or smile at least once each day. You can read more about this in Robin’s chapter on ‘Play’ in her book, Well to the Core. It inspired me to be more intentional with this.
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I get multiple emails and messages per day asking:
“Steve, what should I do for a workout?”
Well, partner, today is your lucky day.
I’m gonna help build you a custom workout program, step-by-step!
After all, a workout should be developed around a person’s training age, goals, injury history, free time, and available equipment, not to mention things you ENJOY doing!
Considering all those factors, it’s easy to overcomplicate this process. There are a seemingly infinite number of exercises, sets, reps, and programs to choose from. Don’t worry – together, we’ll cut through the noise and get to the good stuff.
Now, if you’re somebody that wants to skip all of that, and JUST be told what exactly to do:
We build customized workouts for our Online Coaching Clientsand would love to have you. We get to know your story: your goals, challenges, and lifestyle. Then we develop a workout plan specific to your schedule and needs.
Now, if you’re more of a “figure this stuff out on my own” kind of person – we’re going to dig into how to build your own workout plan today!
We’ve also created a free resource you can take with you, Strength Training 101: Everything You Need to Know, which covers all of this stuff in a single guide. You can download it here:
Download our comprehensive guideSTRENGTH TRAINING 101!
Everything you need to know about getting strong.
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OKAY! Are you ready to start building your own routine?
Whatever your goals are, it’s good to write them down and be aware of what you’re trying to accomplish.
These goals will shape HOW you build your workout.
An effective way to create goals is by using the SMART method, which stands for specific, measurable, attainable, relevant, and timely.[1]
Specific – Specifically state what is to be accomplished. For example, “I want to gain 5 pounds of muscle.” (In this article we’ll cover how to build a workout to help you lose weight, build muscle, and get stronger. If you have specific goals like getting your first pull-up, getting your first push-up, or running your first 5k, we have articles covering each of these in detail.)
Measurable – Find a way to measure your progress. For example, you will need body composition equipment to assess your fat and muscle mass.
Attainable – Your goals should be realistically attainable. For example, a realistic rate of muscle gain is up to 0.5 pounds per week. To gain 5 pounds of muscle, 10 weeks would be an attainable starting point.
Relevant – Your goals must relate to your interests, needs, likes/dislikes, and abilities. Another thing to remember is that your goals need to be generated by you and you alone! For example, if you don’t care about gaining 5 pounds of muscle, or aren’t quite sure how this will benefit your life, then this isn’t a great goal for you!
Timely – Your goals must have a timeline for completion. If your goal is to gain 5 pounds of muscle then a reasonable end-point should be at minimum 10 weeks.
If you are struggling with your goals, revisit the SMART framework and see if you can tweak your goals to work better for you.
QUESTION 2: How much time can you devote to exercise?
If you can do an hour a day, that’s fantastic.
But maybe you have a wife or husband, three kids, a dog, two jobs, and no robot butler…
…then maybe you only have thirty minutes, twice a week.
That’s fine too!
In the past 15 years of working with folks from all walks of life, we’ve realized there’s a warped sense of HOW much working out is needed to achieve your goals. For many of our 1-on-1 coaching clients, working out 2 to 4 times per week for 30 to 45 minutes is PLENTY to see some serious progress. (And as Staci mentioned in the video above, even 1 workout per week can work, especially for beginners!)
Another key thing to remember: your workout doesn’t have to happen all at once! According to the American College of Sports Medicine (ACSM), if you accumulate three 10-minute bouts of exercise throughout the day to total 30 minutes of exercise, then that is as effective as someone who does one 30-minute bout of exercise.[2]
Now, no matter how much time you have, developing the most efficient workout is crucial.
Why spend two hours in a gym when you can get just as much accomplished in 30 minutes, right?
So whether you are building muscle or looking to lose weight, a strength training workout will get you the results you’re after (when combined with the right eating strategy!)
While we’re talking about time, let me quickly mention something important:
As we mention in that guide, here are some realistic timeframes for weight loss or muscle gain:[3]
For weight loss, a realistic rate is 0.5-1% of body weight per week. For example, if you weigh 200 pounds with a weight loss goal of 0.5% per week, your goal would be a 500-calorie-per-day deficit.
For muscle gain, a realistic rate is 0.25-0.5% of body weight per week. For example, if you weigh 200 pounds with a muscle gain goal of 0.25% per week, your goal would be a 250-calorie-per-day surplus.
Unless you’ve been strength training for years and know what you’re doing, we recommend a full-body routine that you can do 2-3 times a week.
You want a workout routine that has at least one exercise for your:
Quads (front of your legs).
Butt and hamstrings (back of your legs).
Chest, shoulders, and triceps: (“push” muscles).
Back, biceps, and grip ( “pull” muscles).
I have a trick for you: by targeting compound movements that recruit multiple muscles at the same time, you can build a full-body routine that uses only a handful of exercises.
How’s THAT for efficiency!?!
A compound exercise would be the yin to the yang of the isolation exercise.
Think of a push-up (compound):
Compared to bicep curls through a machine (isolation):
Compound exercises have been found to result in improvements in aerobic endurance, muscular fitness, and flexibility, since you’re recruiting all sorts of muscle groups at once.[5]
Isolation exercises, on the other hand, focus on single-joint movements targeting one specific muscle group, like the biceps curl above.
Both compound and isolation exercises have a time and place in your training program.
As you get more advanced, isolation exercises are great for targeting specific muscles to promote further strength or development. They can also help beginners who struggle to “feel” their muscles working in specific movements learn more body awareness and control.
However, for people looking to lose weight, add some muscle, and get stronger – we recommend you start with predominantly compound exercises because of the huge return on investment for your time invested. These movements are the staple of the most effective training programs out there!
You don’t need to make things more complicated than this!
(Not that we humans have a tendency to overcomplicate things to the point of paralysis and inaction…)
Ahem.
If you’re not sure how to do any of the movements above, click on their links for thorough write-ups and video demonstrations.
Pick one exercise from EACH category above, specifically ones that scare you the least, and that will be your workout every other day for the next week.
Get really good at these basic movements and focus on getting stronger each week (I’ll cover how below).
If you get really strong at squats, deadlifts, pull-ups, and push-ups, you will build an incredible physique to be proud of.
Plus, building strength with these exercises will also help in other areas such as improving your performance in sports, decreasing your risk of chronic diseases (e.g., CVD) and premature mortality (an early death).[6]
*mic drop*
**picks up mic**
Then, once you get confident in those movements, feel free to add some variety.
Why?
If you do the same exact routine, three days a week, for months and months, you might get bored, and start slacking…
Do deadlifts every Wednesday, but change up the sets and reps you pick!
If you hit a plateau or find yourself getting bored, pick a different exercise or adjust your sets and reps so you’ll stay challenged, and you’ll actually DO the workout!
“But Steve, what about core exercises like sit-ups or planks? I don’t see those listed here.”
I’m so glad you asked! While it’s cool to add more specific core work to your program if you want to, squats, pull-ups, dips and deadlifts all do a great job of challenging your core to stay stable all on their own. If you do add in ab work, we recommend doing so at the end of your program so that you aren’t tiring out those muscles before doing your other big, compound lifts. Also, abs are revealed in the kitchen.
I know it’s really easy to overcomplicate this process as there’s an infinite number of exercises, sets, reps, and programs to choose from.
And yes, we have a solution for people that JUST want to be told what exactly to do: our uber-popular 1-on-1 coaching program pairs you with your own Nerd Fitness Coach who will get to know you, your goals, and your lifestyle, and develop a workout plan that’s specific to not only your body, but also to your schedule and life:
Step #3: How Many Sets And Reps Should I Do?
SIMPLE ANSWER: Not including a warm-up set or two, I recommend:
If you can do more than 15 reps without much of a challenge, consider increasing the weight or the difficulty of the movement. This is true for things like lunges, bodyweight squats, push-ups, pull-ups, etc.
If you want to focus more on building strength, keep your repetitions in the 5-10 range per set. As you get comfortable with the movements, you can move into lower rep ranges – but we find for beginners that starting with slightly higher reps gives you more time to practice doing the movement correctly.
There are some other generally accepted ‘rules’ about how to determine how many reps you should target per set, based on your goals:
Reps in the 1-5 range build super dense muscle and strength (called myofibrillar hypertrophy).
Reps in the 6-12 range build a somewhat equal amount of muscular strength and muscular size (this is called sarcoplasmic hypertrophy). [35]
Reps in the 12+ range build muscular endurance.
However, don’t think of these as hard and fast rules. For example, a 2015 study [10] called into question the best rep strategy for building muscle or size:
It appears that high-intensity resistance (sets of 3-5 reps) training stimulates greater improvements in some measures of strength and hypertrophy in resistance-trained men during a short-term training period [compared to sets of 8-10 reps].
Other recent studies have found that people built a similar amount of muscle with anywhere from 5 to 30 repetitions, as long as they worked close to failure.[38]
What this means: Do not freak yourself out by worrying if you should do 3 sets or 4 sets of 8 reps or 10 reps.
Our advice would be to START with lighter weights and more reps as you learn the movement, and then decide if you want to stay at higher reps and lower weight or vice versa.
You do you, because either way will get you results!
The only thing you need to worry about: get stronger the next time you do that movement.
Either pick up a heavier weight, or do 1 more repetition than last time.
“JUST GIVE ME THE ANSWER!”
Keep your TOTAL (all exercises combined) workout number of sets for all exercises in the 10-20 set range, with 5-15 reps per set:
4 exercises total, each with 2 to 5 “work sets” is a good start. [36]
Remember, the most important part is to get started – you’ll learn how your body responds and you can adapt as you go.
What you DON’T need to do: multiple exercises for each body part with 10 sets.
This will result in significant fatigue during your workout increasing your risk of sustaining an injury. It can also result in overtraining, in which you will experience a decrease in performance and plateauing (will not see muscular improvements).[11]
So calm down you eager beaver.
A BIG CAVEAT:How you eat will determine if you get bigger or stronger. Nutrition is 80-90% of the equation. So pick a range that feels good, and then focus on nutrition.
And if you don’t want to figure any of this out and just want to be told exactly how what exercises, sets, and reps to do, our online coaches can take care of that for you.
Step #4: How Long Should I Wait Between Sets?
Keep it simple, you “smart, good-looking, funny, modest person” you.
Below is a basic formula for you to determine how long you should wait between sets, but this can be adjusted based on your level of health.
The goal is to wait the least amount of time you need, but still rest enough that you can perform all reps of the next set safely and properly!
Adequate rest in-between sets will allow your body to regenerate energy, so you can execute the next set of reps with good form and technique, therefore, decreasing your risk of injury.
I’ll provide some guidelines for how long to rest based on how heavy you’re lifting (not rules set in stone!):
1-3 Reps (lifting heavy for strength/power): Rest for 3 to 5 minutes between sets.
4-7 Reps (lifting for strength): Rest for 2 to 3 minutes between sets.
8-12 Reps (lifting for size/strength): Rest for 1 to 2 minutes between sets.
13 Reps+ (lifting for endurance): Rest long enough to recover to allow you to do the next long-ass set!
If you need more or less rest than the above recommendations, that’s fine. The key is being recovered enough that you can perform the next set at similar intensity and with great technique. Whatever it takes to get you there, do it![13]
Do the best you can, record how long it takes you to rest between sets. The amount of rest you need to take over time may vary.
Your body will adjust as you get stronger and healthier!
The simple-to-learn but tough-to-implement answer:
Lift enough so that you can get through the set, but not too much that you have NO fuel left in the tank at the end.
How do you determine how much that is?
Trial and error.
ALWAYS err on the side of “too light” versus “too heavy” when starting out.
It’s better to say “I bet I could have done more!” instead of “That was too much, and now I need to go to the hospital!”
Plus, when you start working out, you’re actually programming your neuromuscular systems to do the movement correctly.[14] You can’t rush this, so it’s best not to start off too heavy.[15]
If a person can do two reps (or more) over their set goal, then they should increase the load.
How much should you increase weight?
For less trained people (i.e., beginners), it is recommended that for upper body exercises you increase the load by 2 – 5 pounds and by 5 – 10 pounds for lower body exercises.
For more trained people (i.e., advanced), it is recommended that for upper body exercises you increase the load by 5 – 10 pounds or more and by 10 – 15 pounds or more for lower body exercises [37]
I will say, if you’re doing exercises with just your body weight, you need to make each exercise more difficult as you get in shape – once you get past 20 reps for a particular exercise and you’re not gassed, it’s time to mix things up.
20 bodyweight squats too easy? Hold some weights high above your head as you do the next set. Eventually, you can scale up to do exercises like the pistol squat:
Step #6: How Long Should I Exercise For? How Long Should My Workout Be?
Easy answer: 45 minutes to an hour.
Longer answer: If you’re doing 10-20 sets of total exercise (2-5 sets for your 4 exercises), you should be able to get everything done within that 45-minute block.[17]
Now, factor in a five or ten-minute warm-up, and then some stretching afterward, and the workout can go a little bit longer.[18]
If you can go for over an hour and you’re not completely worn out, try increasing the intensity.
What’s that? You want to build some cardio into your weight training.
That’s where this next section comes in.
Step #7: How To Create Supersets And Circuit Training Workouts
For those short on time, a circuit training workoutis a highly efficient framework for training.
You’re getting a cardiovascular workout by consistently moving from exercise to exercise.
You’re exercising different muscles back to back, giving each muscle group a chance to recover, but in a condensed amount of time. Efficiency for the win!
It also increases the amount of calories burned in your post-workout window. [20]
If you’re familiar with CrossFit, many of those workouts are built on circuit principles.
This is also the most effective way to make you involuntarily swear at inanimate objects because you’re so tired and beat up.
We get this question quite a bit, usually from overeager beavers who decide they are going to go from “sitting on the couch watching The Office on repeat” to “exercising 7 days per week.”
I would advise something different.
I mean you can still watch The Office…
…but you don’t need to be training 7 days a week!
We don’t want you burning out quickly and falling back to square one, a concern we mention in our guide “How Often Should I Work Out?“
For starters, your muscles don’t get built in the gym.
They actually get broken down in the gym, and then get rebuilt stronger while you’re resting…watching The Office.[24]
By giving your muscles 48 hours to recover between workouts, especially when training heavy, you’ll stay injury-free and get stronger.[25]
A Monday-Wednesday-Friday workout routine works well to ensure enough time to recover, especially when you are just getting started.
If you want to do Tuesday-Thursday-Saturday, or Sunday-Tuesday-Thursday, great.
And we get it. Life doesn’t always perfectly align with this every-other-day schedule. The most important thing is to do the work with the time you have.
Then, pay attention to how you are recovering in between workouts. Are you still sore and tired when you begin your next workout? Do you notice you are having to use lighter and lighter weights because you are too fatigued? It may be worth trying to give yourself more time in between workouts so you can recover!
Just pick “exercise” that’s fun for you and that won’t exhaust your muscles. (Same questions as above.)[26][[26]]However, don’t forget that recovery is key to preventing injuries and allowing the body to rebuild itself after the stress of exercise. If you are looking to exercise on your off days we suggest that you cross-train. Cross-training involves engaging in a training routine or exercises that are different from what you normally would do. For example, if you always run for cardio, we would suggest that you change things up and go on the elliptical or bike. This allows you to stay active on your off days while also allowing the muscles that are always stressed from running to rest and recuperate. (Haff G, Triplett NT. (2016). Essentials of strength training and conditioning. Fourth edition. Champaign, IL: Human Kinetics).[[25]]
Also, here’s a lifehack: Program your workouts INTO your Google calendar (or Outlook).
You’re much more likely to do a workout that has been planned for in your work week!
Alternatively, you can hire a coach to program your workouts for you, so every day you know exactly what you need to do!
Step #9: Keep Track Of Everything!
Last but not least, keep a workout journal!
As they say, that which gets measured gets improved.
You should be getting stronger, faster, or more fit with each day of exercise.
Around these parts, we say “Level up your life, every single day.”
If you want to build from scratch, great! Let’s break it down into easy chunks with this recap:
Warm-up – 5-10 minutes on a bike, rowing machine, jumping jacks, running up and down your stairs, etc. Get the blood flowing and your muscles warm.[29]
Pick one exercise for each big muscle group – quads, butt and hamstrings, push, and pull.[30]
Do 2-5 sets for each exercise. (Start with lower sets to begin with.)
Do 5-15 reps per set for each exercise. (If you aren’t sure where to start, 10 reps is a nice middle ground.)
Rest and recovery between sets for each exercise. Keep it simple. 1-2 minutes and adjust from there.[31]
Increase your efficiency and work your heart by doing supersets or circuits. This results in a higher EPOC meaning greater caloric expenditure and weight loss!
Give yourself permission to mess up, learn a little, and keep improving as you train more regularly!
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American College of Sports Medicine. ACSM’s Guidelines for Exercise Testing and Prescription. Philadelphia: Lippincott Williams & Wilkins, 2000
Read, “Effect of short moderate intensity exercise bouts on cardiovascular function and maximal oxygen consumption in sedentary older adults.” Souce, BMJ Journals
(Spano MA, Kruskall LJ, Thomas DT. (2018). Nutrition for Sport, Exercise, and Health).
American College of Sports Medicine. ACSM’s Guidelines for Exercise Testing and Prescription. Philadelphia: Lippincott Williams & Wilkins, 2000
Haff G, Triplett NT. (2016). Essentials of strength training and conditioning. Fourth edition. Champaign, IL: Human Kinetics
Remember, it all comes down to a caloric deficit or surplus. if you are trying to lose weight it is recommended that you seek a calorie deficit by consuming 250-500 less calories per day below your typical calorie intake. This will result in a realistic weight loss goal of 1-2 pounds per week. If you’re trying to gain muscle mass, then it is recommended that you seek a calorie surplus by consuming 250-500 additional calories above your typical calorie intake. This will result in a realistic gain in lean muscle mass of about 0.5 pounds per week. Source: Spano MA, Kruskall LJ, Thomas DT. (2018). Nutrition for Sport, Exercise, and Health
American College of Sports Medicine. ACSM’s Guidelines for Exercise Testing and Prescription. Philadelphia: Lippincott Williams & Wilkins, 2000)
This goes back to the progressive overload principle. Remember, in order to achieve your training goals or to see improvements, your training must gradually and constantly increase Source: Haff G, Triplett NT. (2016). Essentials of strength training and conditioning. Fourth edition. Champaign, IL: Human Kinetics.
If you do not progress your workout, then you will reach a plateau because your body has met the demands of your exercise or stress that you have placed upon it. If you progress your workout (e.g., do more reps, lift heavier weights, do different exercises, etc.), then those microscopic tears (that don’t hurt) will happen and your muscles will go through hypertrophy and grow bigger and stronger. Source: Powers SK, Howley ET. (2011). Exercise physiology: Theory and application to fitness and performance. New York: McGraw-Hill Humanities/Social Sciences/Languages).
You’ll see a few different recommendations around this. The National Strength and Conditioning Association (NSCA) recommends 6-12 reps for 3-6 sets for muscle hypertrophy and more than 12 reps for 2-3 sets for muscular endurance (Source: Haff G, Triplett NT. (2016). Essentials of strength training and conditioning. Fourth edition. Champaign, IL: Human Kinetics). While the American College of Sports Medicine (ACSM) simply recommends 8-12 reps for 2-4 sets for healthy individuals (Read, American College of Sports Medicine position stand. Progression models in resistance training for healthy adults. Source, PubMed.
While these are great places to start, more recent studies show that anything between 5 and 30 reps, as long as you train close to failure, are similarly effective in stimulating muscle growth.
As you get more advanced, adding more sets may continue to be beneficial – as long as you can recover from the amount of workload. See this study on the effects of hypertrophy gains in trained men up to 45 sets per target muscle per week.
Read, “Musculoskeletal adaptations and injuries due to overtraining.” Soucre, PubMed.
Excessive muscle fatigue, often resulting by engaging in higher intensity exercise or engaging in exercise with short rest intervals has been found to increase one’s risk for muscle strains due to fatigue eliciting poor exercise technique. For more, read “Muscle strain injury: diagnosis and treatment.” Source, PubMed.
The NSCA also has guidelines in-place to help you determine your rest intervals in-between sets: 2 to 5 minutes for strength and power, 30 seconds to 1.5 minutes for hypertrophy, and 30 seconds or less for muscular endurance (Haff G, Triplett NT. (2016). Essentials of strength training and conditioning. Fourth edition. Champaign, IL: Human Kinetics).
Plus, ACSM has a basic recommendation of 2 to 3 minutes (American College of Sports Medicine. ACSM’s Guidelines for Exercise Testing and Prescription. Philadelphia: Lippincott Williams & Wilkins, 2000). So we don’t have to get overly dogmatic here.
More efficient communication between your neuromuscular systems results in proper motor unit recruitment. A motor unit is a single motor neuron and the muscle fibers it innervates. We have small motor units, meaning that a single motor neuron innervates relatively few muscle fibers, and these smaller motor units are good for precise and detailed movements (e.g., moving your fingers). On the other hand, we have large motor units, meaning that a single motor neuron innervates hundreds of muscle fibers, and these larger motor units are good for generating a lot of force (e.g., getting larger muscle groups like the quads to generate a lot of force to help in running) (Powers SK, Howley ET. (2011). Exercise physiology: Theory and application to fitness and performance. New York: McGraw-Hill Humanities/Social Sciences/Languages; Heckman CJ, Enoka RM. Motor unit. Compr Physiol. 2012 Oct;2(4):2629-82. doi: 10.1002/cphy.c100087. PMID: 23720261).
When you first start strength training, your motor units don’t fire as quickly and smaller motor units that don’t generate a lot of force are recruited. As you continue working out and become more trained, your motor units fire more rapidly and your brain recruits larger motor units that can generate more force allowing you to lift heavier weights. This is why the progressive overload principle is important! As your neuromuscular system communicates more efficiently, you will see improvements in your exercise technique and muscle adaptations (e.g., hypertrophy) taking place.
Haff G, Triplett NT. (2016). Essentials of strength training and conditioning. Fourth edition. Champaign, IL: Human Kinetics.
Note: these numbers can be misleading. As you get to heavier and heavier total loads, the amount of stress placed on the body increases, and so you may have to make much smaller jumps in weight, rather than larger. The important thing is to pay attention to recovery and make sure you don’t add too much weight, too soon.
According to ACSM and the CDC, all healthy adults aged 18-65 years should participate in moderate-intensity aerobic physical activity for a minimum of 30-minutes on five days per week, or vigorous-intensity aerobic activity for a minimum of 20-minutes on three days per week. Additionally, every adult should perform activities that maintain or increase muscular strength and endurance for a minimum of two days per week. Performing exercise at a moderate-to-vigorous intensity will result in greater caloric expenditure and weight loss. (American College of Sports Medicine. ACSM’s Guidelines for Exercise Testing and Prescription. Philadelphia: Lippincott Williams & Wilkins, 2000).
The NSCA recommends a 5-10 minute warm-up to prepare the body for the exercise session, and the exercise session should be followed by a 5-10 minute cool-down to bring the body back down to rest (Haff G, Triplett NT. (2016). Essentials of strength training and conditioning. Fourth edition. Champaign, IL: Human Kinetics).
The ACSM and other researchers have found that if you ACCUMULATE 10-minute bouts of exercise throughout the day that can be as effective as one who does one 30-minute bout of exercise. Read, “The Effects of Continuous Compared to Accumulated Exercise on Health: A Meta-Analytic Review.” Source, PubMed.
Circuit training results in a higher excess post-exercise oxygen consumption (EPOC) resulting in great caloric expenditure when compared to traditional strength training with longer rest intervals in between sets and exercises. Read, “Circuit weight training and its effects on excess postexercise oxygen consumption.” Source, PubMed.
Haff G, Triplett NT. (2016). Essentials of strength training and conditioning. Fourth edition. Champaign, IL: Human Kinetics
Oh, and even if you aren’t doing a ciruict, don’t use your cell phone for other purposes besides using it to listen to music! Other cell phone functions such as texting and talking have been found to lower the intensity of exercise resulting in lower caloric expenditure, and disrupt balance leading to a greater risk of musculoskeletal injuries. Read, “The Impact of Cell Phone Use on the Intensity and Liking of a Bout of Treadmill Exercise.” Source, PubMed. Read, “The impact of different cell phone functions and their effects on postural stability.” Source, ScienceDirect.
The NSCA recommends 2-3 training sessions for novice or beginners, 3 sessions if using total body training or 4 sessions if using a split routine for intermediates, and 4-6 sessions for advanced lifters (Haff G, Triplett NT. (2016). Essentials of strength training and conditioning. Fourth edition. Champaign, IL: Human Kinetics).
Strength training results in microscopic muscle tears in the muscles. This causes a cascade of events eventually leading to muscle repair and growth (i.e., hypertrophy). Our muscles adapt to the overload stress of strength training immediately after each bout of exercise, but it takes roughly eight weeks to see physical improvements (Powers SK, Howley ET. (2011). Exercise physiology: Theory and application to fitness and performance. New York: McGraw-Hill Humanities/Social Sciences/Languages).
Adequate recovery is essential to prevent overtraining. When we become overtrained, our injury risk increases and we reach a plateau and no longer see any improvements from our training. For more, read “The effects of resistance training, overtraining, and early specialization on youth athlete injury and development.” Source, PubMed.
This applies to all healthcare professionals who are working with clients, athletes, military personnel, special populations (e.g., cardiac rehab). These healthcare professionals are tracking everything so they can see if you are improving or not. And if you’re not improving, that is okay. At least you know and then you can start making changes to your exercise routine: change your exercises from bodyweight to free weights; change the number of sets and rep; shorten or lengthen your rest intervals, etc.
And if you’re not improving, that is okay. At least you know and then you can start making changes to your exercise routine: change your exercises from body weight to free weights; change the number of sets and rep; shorten or lengthen your rest intervals, etc.
A traditional warm-up usually consists of two components. The first is a general warm-up of 5-10 minutes of low- to moderate-intensity aerobic exercise, such as jogging or stationary cycling. The second is a specific warm-up that involves less intense movements similar to the sport or activity about to be performed. This second part involves performing dynamic stretches such as high knees, butt-kicks, skipping, shuffling, carioca, etc. The purpose of this type of warm-up is to allow the body to gradually adjust to the demands of exercise by allowing for increases in heart rate, blood flow, muscle temperature, and core body temperature (Haff G, Triplett NT. (2016). Essentials of strength training and conditioning. Fourth edition. Champaign, IL: Human Kinetics).
These big muscle groups allow for everyday activities to be performed with more ease and for you to maintain a more independent lifestyle for a longer period of time. For more, read “American College of Sports Medicine position stand. Progression models in resistance training for healthy adults. Source, PubMed.
But remember, the sets, reps, and rest intervals will change as your training goals change.
The longer your workout the more fatigue you will experience, therefore, increasing your risk of injury. Keep your cell phone in the locker room if you’re having a difficult time keeping your workout to less than an hour!
The same rules apply as for the warm-up. After you are done with your exercise session perform 5-10 minutes of low- to moderate-intensity aerobic exercise. The second part of the cool-down will consist of static stretching instead of dynamic stretching. Static stretching involves slowly moving a muscle to the end of its range of motion and then holding that position for a period of time (10-30 seconds or 30-60 seconds for its greatest benefits). You should stretch the muscle enough to feel a slight discomfort, but don’t go too far where you start to feel pain. For more, read “American College of Sports Medicine position stand. Quantity and quality of exercise for developing and maintaining cardiorespiratory, musculoskeletal, and neuromotor fitness in apparently healthy adults: guidance for prescribing exercise.” Source, PubMed.
Remember, the only way you’re going to know if you’re improving and if your program works is if you’re recording the data. If it’s not working, at least you can catch it early and make the necessary adjustments.